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21st-Sep-2007 09:11 am
Jesus Swing
Here's another reason why I love my dear friend Yellow. Not just because she makes me laugh, or because she trusts me implicitly, or because she sends me books and cd's of her old band - this time, it's because she says things like this:
"So I'm on the bus yesterday and I noticed this beautiful little girl with her mother. She was so sweet and beautiful and little, and her mother was just so mean and was constantly yelling at her - that is, when she was not on her cellphone and actually paying any attention to her daughter. Did I mention that she was pregnant? Yeah. So I sat there looking at this little girl and seeing her being treated so mean, and all I could think is how badly I just wanted to take her home with me. And bake her a strawberry cake, and make flowers on it and write her name on the top. Give it to her and say 'Go at it with your hands, babe. Take it into the bathtub if you want, we can wash your hair next week'. That's what I'd do."
21st-Sep-2007 04:30 pm (UTC)
I hear people complain all the time how hard it is to raise a child and how much money it takes and wah wah wah wah....they should have spent the $0.75 for a fucking condom and they wouldn't be in this situation now. People should really be required to get a license before they reproduce. There's too many people who want kids and can't have them and too many worthless shitheads that can't take care of the ones they have.

Your friend is a lot nicer than I would have been. I would have told the ghetto trash to get off the phone and start being a fucking parent and advised her to just swallow next time. But that's just me ;)
24th-Sep-2007 05:53 am (UTC)
Yeah...I think we'd all like to do that sometimes. Problem is, interference like that with people who would garner that kind of ire from me usually results in the kids being all the more punished for it.
21st-Sep-2007 09:50 pm (UTC)
This is appropriate if you assume the child wasn't just being a demon spawn before they got on the bus. I know there were times my mother just REAMED us, and we fully deserved it. I'm always wary to too quickly judge about a cranky parent in the usually 5 minutes I see them.
24th-Sep-2007 05:51 am (UTC)
I don't know...when you're talking about young kids, I don't think there is *ever* a justifiable reason to be *mean*. Reprimanding, yeah. Terse, stern. Ok. Mean? Not ok.

Add to that the observation by AB's friend Yellow that Mom was mostly on the phone or ignoring the little girl, that pretty much smacks of assholery to me.

I'm a mom of a 14 yr old, a 10 yr old, and a 4 month old, and I've had my days and my meltdowns and my moments...but it's never ok to be mean.
24th-Sep-2007 06:05 am (UTC)
True. Maybe the problem is that "mean" is such a broad word, I've known quite a few people (mostly people without kids though) say parents are being "mean" when they're just reprimanding a bad behavior. I know there are plenty of people who probably thought my own mom was being "mean" to me and my brothers when we were being yelled at. But we usually deserved it d:

I guess I just get wary because some people get so jumpy about kids they forget to look more closely. Sometimes I hear the most ridiculous arguments on the planet "for the good of the children" (Not saying that is the case here though, just to make myself clear. Don't want to be a rude asshat on accident to a woman I don't even know.)

I guess I also did forget I'm used to seeing parenting directed at three teenagers. Me and my siblings have moved out of the small child stage.

I couldn't imagine raising a 14 year old, adolescents are tricky beasties. (then again, I'm only 19, maybe I shouldn't be able to yet. (: )
22nd-Sep-2007 04:10 am (UTC)
I love Yellow too. And I'd have been so tempted to do the same thing.

Now if Mom had witnessed it . . . let's just say we'd probably be in hiding somewhere, without Internet access, with one miserable bitch dead of brain trauma via cellphone rammed up her nose, and one little girl in a fluffy dress eating strawberry cake in the bathtub.

22nd-Sep-2007 01:12 pm (UTC) - Dude...
That -- and obviously, as its creatrix, Yellow -- is so freakin' awesome!

Celebrating the innate willingness-to-be-ALIVE that we *all* possess -- and that children often remind us "jaded" adults of, which we mistake as "innocence" in children -- is such a key part of being fully alive as a *grown-up*, too...

I want to go bake me -- and everyone I love -- a strawberry cake. Heck, I'd even eat theirs if they didn't want it. ;o) I'm generous that way. [[grins]]

Thanks, man. You --and your friends -- rock... [[snuggs]]
23rd-Sep-2007 07:31 pm (UTC)
i think yellow sounds a lovely person and i agrewith her completely . at the sametime i agree emphaticaly with wolf pup! on all counts :D i say i agree, that implies i would have done what he would.. i would have just 'wanted' to do it..
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