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The Hate Project 
27th-Aug-2007 03:36 pm
When someone says hurtful, nasty things to you on purpose to hurt your feelings, I don't think they realize the power of the damage they create in you. I don't think it occurs to them that they create wounds that last for many years.

I've believed for a long time that it isn't what meanspiritied things others say about you that matter, it's what you say to yourself. My grandmother told me once that it wasn't what came out of a person's mouth that made it dirty, it's what they put in it. (I had been chastized for calling a cousin an asshole when he was bullying me) It was her way of telling me that it's never about someone's perception of you, it was about your perception of yourself that mattered.

There's a new interactive blog called The Hate Project.. See how it works and the philosophy behind it here. The idea is to take the power back from the people you let have that kind of control over you to make you feel badly about yourself.

I'll be submitting my own pictures soon.
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27th-Aug-2007 10:07 pm (UTC)
I have had this thing about, for way back, all the way to early childhood. I would call it my buffer, I guess, a filter of sorts. It would seem I know when someone is deliberately being mean, when someone is being hurtful on purpose to upset me. There is a switch inside that flips and protects me from this harm. I wish I could understand how it works to offer it to other folks.

It doesn't help much, though, in situations when folks think they are being nice - or casual - and let slip with something that is devastating, but I will gladly except the protection it does offer...
28th-Aug-2007 01:04 am (UTC)
"When someone says hurtful, nasty things to you on purpose to hurt your feelings, I don't think they realize the power of the damage they create in you. I don't think it occurs to them that they create wounds that last for many years."

I don't know so much about this.

I believe that after a certain age, the words people throw at us only have the power we give them. Words cannot hurt me unless I choose to let them.

Ya know?
28th-Aug-2007 08:42 am (UTC)
I love you icon!

*snags*
28th-Aug-2007 08:50 am (UTC)
I love YOUR icon!

*snags*
30th-Aug-2007 02:53 am (UTC)
hey, thanks. i look forward to getting your pictures.
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