Brad Smith (jesus_h_biscuit) wrote,
Brad Smith

Life Lessons, Witticisms, & General Good Advice

  • You are dying right now as you read this, accept that and have a life while you can.
  • Guilt and shame are absolutely useless. Be who you know you are and do not put yourself in the position of having to justify yourself or over explain who, how, why, or what you are.
  • The best way to get something from someone is to give it to them first - only then are you really worthy of it.
  • Loving a person means you want better things for them than they want for themselves. It also means knowing what buttons to push to make them hurt, because if you truly love them you will never ever push those buttons. Ever.
  • Have no fear of rejection. No one can really reject you anyway, all they can do is prove they were never worthy of you to begin with.
  • All people come into your life for a different reason, the categories are simple. they come for a single reason, a season, or a lifetime. You must accept people as they are but that is not to say that you have to accept being completely incompatible with them.
  • There is never a right time, there is never a perfect time, but there is ALWAYS a better time.
  • Challenge yourself as often as you can so that you will know what your limits are, and until you know what your limits are, live as though you have none whatsoever.
  • Live in the now, it is all you really have. The past is over and unchangeable, the future is uncertain. Live in the now, make it memorable, and make it count.
  • Take people at their actions and not their words. You will never know who they really are by what they say, think, feel, or claim to believe, only by what they do. This is how character is both built and revealed.
  • True joy only exists in self acceptance. Seek perfect acceptance instead of a perfect life.
  • Honor and celebrate the people who love you, accept you, and put up with your bullshit like your life depends on it - when you get down to it, it really does.
  • Do not waste or throw away energy on stupid shit. Energy you waste is ten times harder to reclaim as energy well spent, and coming by it is hard enough without wasting it when you have it.

  • Develop your sense of compassion. You cannot do truly great things, only little things with great love.
  • You are under no obligation to forgive anyone that hurts you, and you owe them no forgiveness. All forgiveness really is is deciding that what someone did is not worth writing them out of your life. It certainly doesn't mean you are "over it" or that anything is made right yet, just a declaration that the old relationship is dead and a starting point for something new.
  • Do something nice for someone else but don't tell anyone about it.
  • Smile at strangers, make eye contact and say "Hello!" Do it for yourself as much as for them.
  • Always leave extra change in vending machines or on store counters for the person behind you somewhere that is a few cents short. Think of how good it would make you feel if someone did it for you when you really needed it.
  • Accept that life is not fair and that you will not always get your way, and pick your battles wisely. Oftentimes you'll find that some things are really just not worth the fuss.
  • Time wasted on the wrong people is time taken away from the right ones.The fools who take and never give are robbing you of your life and well being, and those who love, need, and deserve you suffer in your absence.
  • People who do not compliment your life will only complicate it. Some people are just toxic and no amount of wishing or hoping will change this fact. They'll manipulate you to get something from you, which is not love. In fact, it is the opposite of love.
  • Hatred is not the opposite of love, just another extreme of it - the opposite of love is the total absence of it.
  • Consider this: If you did not know yourself, would you want to be friends with YOU? If not, should you not be making yourself a better friend to others?
  • When in doubt as to whose turn it is to take out the trash, TAKE OUT THE GODDAMNED TRASH.
  • Don't be a "ditto head". Read things from different points of view from your own and reaffirm your existing beliefs or change them.
  • Fix your life so that whenever people are thinking of you, the first things that come to mind are how thoughtful, caring, and fair you are. All examples you set should be the ones you want to set for your children.
  • Be brave, and even when you're not, pretend you are. No one can tell the difference.
  • Write notes and letters to the people you love. When you die, they will be the best gifts you ever gave.
  • Your house, your rules. If guests cannot handle that, they can fuck right off. Your home is your safe space from the world and all its craziness - do not suffer gladly anyone disrespecting that.
  • Never be afraid to speak your mind, especially when you see injustice happening.
  • Just because it is important to you does not mean it will be to others. Conversely, what is unimportant to you is very important to someone else. Maintain a level of respect for these differences.
  • Every once in a while, indulge yourself with something and have enough to share with someone who deserves it. Make this a new ritual.
  • Just for fun, buy $5 worth of scratch off lottery tickets and give them to random people - people you know or strangers. You'll bring fun and light to someone's day.
  • Masturbating is the single most self validating thing you can do - tug and tug often.
  • Get into the habit of being early for everything, and take your time once you get there.
  • Don't stop. If you just don't stop, you'll find your way eventually. Sometimes you may end up the winner because you were the only one that showed up - so be it, a win is a win.
  • You are NOT your limitations, setbacks, failures, successes, joys, sorrows, strengths, & weaknesses - you are the sum total of all your parts.
  • Fuck anyone who sees the wheelchair before they see its engine.
  • Never let anyone make you feel as though you don't deserve the things you want - that is way too much power for anyone to have over you.
  • The person you are supposed to be is the person you know you are, and you have a responsibility to that person to live through them and let that be your authentic self.
  • If you are not telling yourself the truth then you are a liar to every person you come into association with.
  • People are going to judge you no matter what you do, so be judged on fact and not on opinion - you'll get carried a lot further on it.
  • People do not make you happy - make yourself happy and share that with others. You will never be fulfilled emotionally, intellectually, physically, or psychologically by one person alone, that is too much for one person to live up to. You and you alone are responsible for your happiness.

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