Consider the initial facts. The divorce rate in this country (as of 2005) is 52%, a ratio of marriages to divorces is 2 to 1 give or take. Roughly half end in divorce, the other in death. What the fucking hell is so sanctimonious about that? Anyone? Kiss my motherfucking ass, but I think I'm better than that. I think that a 48% rate of success is NOTHING to strive for or model oneself after, it barely passes as mediocrity and that's just fucking ridiculous. The vast majority of the people screaming about the sanctity of marriage not ONLY have no clue what that even means, but they're either products of the statistics or they're the ones creating them. It's tantamount to MEN having the say in a woman's reproductive rights, which is absolutely insane to me. Let me be clear on that issue before I go any further with the current one - I am pro-choice. I'm a male, ergo I logically default to pro-choice. If you're a woman and you choose not to have an abortion, YOU ARE pro-choice. If you're a man and therefore have no ovaries, JUST SHUT THE GODAMNED HELL UP. There is NO SUCH THING as pro-abortion, it is FAR from an easy choice, and unless you're faced with it you have NO idea what the fuck you're talking about. Women don't have abortions so that straight, fundamentalist Christian men can have something to negate later, contrary to popular belief. If you consider yourself pro-life, go to 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue in Washington, DC and rather than holding up placards of supposedly aborted fetuses, use pictures of soldiers' coffins exported from Iraq. Put your goddamned money where your mouths are you vapid, microcephalic, Jesus pimping, cousin fucking, tampon sucking whores. Find another Terri Schiavo to exploit and fuck right off, asshole. I'm idling at acerbic here, just so you know.
Argue semantics with me all day long, that's kind of the point. If the argument from the opposition is all about religious sanctification and idealism, and that works within the majority of the state and federal governments as a means for giving carte blanche to discrimination, then fine. Whine, complain, be victimized, and keep beating the same dead horses until insanity sets in. OR, realize that the past/current emphasis on marriage equality has become the gay rights' equivalent of 'stay the course'. It isn't up to the opposition to stoke positive change. Equality is a nice idea, but the practicality of seeing it to fruition is almost impossible - at least on any truly beneficial scale. Religious conjecture dictates the majority rules of thought (or lack thereof).
The differences between various legal arrangements have little to do with the overall mindset of the status quo, and that's most of the problem. It's not changing the way THEY think, it's changing the way WE think. They'll ignore proof - any suggestion of it - in favor of faulted logic and mythical superstition. Broken down further, while some cities and states offer Domestic Partnership benefits and Vermont’s Civil Unions certainly guarantees more benefits than any other domestic partnership program to date, these systems still fall short of Civil Marriage. Only Civil Marriage can truly give gay and lesbian couples all the protections afforded by the Federal and individual state governments and ensure equality in the eyes of the law:
Do any of the institutions available to gay people trump DOMA? No, they don't. Therefore equality in this case is a pipe dream. Families, statistically speaking (in particular those including children), are a lot more fundamentally similar across the board regardless of sexuality. I personally think the biggest differences are in the obvious. The only real threat to marriage is divorce, and the people with the highest rates for divorce are - you guessed it - BORN-AGAIN, EVANGELICAL CHRISTIANS! The contradictions are stunning, but at least the hypocrisy is consistent. It comes down to politics in the end though - it always does. Partisan politics? Not really (read: Clinton & DOMA). But it IS mostly the Conservatives who wave these flags and they're the ones in the least position to do so. Of course, they all have to get royally fucked before the tide begins to turn.
So again, I revert to the revised Gay Agenda. If they want to make it about the label, help them by doing what they do best - turn that label into absolute shit. It's the only chance there is realistically speaking for equality.
1. Gay men and lesbians should marry one another, and extol each other every tangible and intangible benefit the institution provides. They cannot stop gay marriage as long as gays are marrying. If you are gay and single without a desire to marry, marry a homosexual of the opposite sex anyway, and donate any marriage credits the government may offer to any gay organization seeking to destroy heterosexual norms.Once again, I say REVOLUTION.
2. Once benefits are secured, divorce. Wreck the sanctity of the institution by driving up the divorce rates from the current 52% to at least 80%.
3. Remember 52% of marriages end in divorce, the remaining 48% in death. There's nothing sanctimonious about that. Demand the institution and then wreck it. James Dobson was right about our evil intentions. We just plan to be quicker than he thought.
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DISCLAIMER: No marriages of any kind were threatened, destroyed, incinerated, maimed, harassed, harmed, or otherwise negated in any form within the conception, composition, execution, or completion of this post.