Brad Smith (jesus_h_biscuit) wrote,
Brad Smith

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The Kids

Children are the best things that could happen to a person, IMHO. They keep you grounded and give you a sense of purpose in a lot of ways. Plus, even for the occasional frustration it takes to deal with them at times, I never feel as honored by anything on earth as I do when I'm with them. Like all relationships, they require a great deal of selflessness, nurturing, and patience on your part. There are times when they make me so overstimulated that I have to go be by myself and take 5 minutes, but it passes relatively quickly for me. Then there are the fleeting moments when they come up to me for no reason for a hug and a kiss or crawl up in my lap to snuggle, and no matter how upset or frustrated I may get with them, I'm just a big ball of goop.

They're forever keeping me laughing with the things they come up with. Last night Avery was frustrated with Nathan because he wasn't moving fast enough to help her color a picture of Cinderella, so she told him (very matter of factly, I might point out) to "...stop being a bitch!". Yeah. She's not so much a mere child as a wayward force of nature.
In keeping with her princess obssession, she's going to be Snow White for Halloween. Cole is going to be something called the 'Night Slasher'. Which reminds me, I have to get a picture of my own costume and post it so everyone can see who was right in the last poll. You're all gonna die, it's so great!

I had a conversation with Cole yesterday on the way home from school, one I don't have with him as often as I feel I should. It's been about a year and it was weighing on my mind, so as we're leaving the school parking lot I initiated it.

Me: I want to ask you something..
Cole: (cautiously), okay.
Me: Well, I'm just curious about something is all and I want your opinion on it.
Cole: Sure, ask me.
Me: Here's the thing - do you think I do a good job of taking care of you and your sister?
Cole: (almost offended that I'm asking this question) Uh, DUH, you do a great job - why are you even asking me this?
Me: Because I think it is important that you think I do my best with you two.
Cole: Well, you do.
Me: Do you think there are things I can do better or things that you need me to do that I don't do already?
Cole: Nope.
Me: Well don't answer so quickly, give it some thought.
Cole: But there's nothing I can think of.
Me: I just want to make sure I'm doing the best I can because if I'm not then I need to work on it, you know what I mean?
Cole: I think so.
Me: I'm just scared sometimes that when I get upset with you about something that you might need me to listen more than I do, because I'm upset. You know how hard it is for you to really listen to someone else when you're angry and how we always try to work on that so you can be a better listener?
Cole: Yeah, so you just want to make sure I understand you is what you're saying.
Me: Yes, and I want you to feel like you can talk to me about anything you want to talk to me about, that you know I'm always on your side, and that I love you no matter what you do.
Cole: I do know that already.
Me: So you know that if you do something that makes me unhappy or disappointed that I still love you and that I'm not always going to feel like that, right?
Cole: You usually do, so yeah. I mean, you always make sure to tell me you love me after we have to have a talk like that.
Me: Do you think I tell you I love you enough and give you enough hugs?
Cole: Yes.

Sometimes I just have to stop them from whatever they're doing just to smile at them, scoop them up in my arms and hug them, give them kisses, and tell them how unbelievably beautiful they are. They break my heart, they are just so beautiful. I love them as if they were my own and do everything I can so make sure they know that. When I was a little boy I was walking through the house one day and told my Mama that I loved her very much for no reason at all. She stopped me and her eyes welled up with tears as she pulled me up into her lap and said "You know what baby? I love you too. I wasn't sure until you just said that and I looked at your little face, but I'm pretty sure you are the most beautiful thing I've ever seen." If I can make these babies feel as precious and perfect as that exchange made me feel, then I know I'm doing my job.

Today is a great day. The best days are always the ones that remind you how lucky and loved you are.
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