A long time ago I wrote a letter to my friend michaelnolan that he posted on his LJ about what happened to me in my childhood. If I could find it I'd finally own up to it as it was posted anonymously. I do not believe in guilt, I have nothing to be ashamed of, and my wish for each of you is that you would feel the same as I do.
I am touched by each of your stories and confessions, you all have my love and respect. Be better than what has been done to you, be bigger than the grief. Own it, don't allow it to own you. Learn to live with it like I have, you don't have to forgive anybody or anything if you don't want to in order to do that. It might not be the most healthy way to live, but it is my choice to hold a grudge until I die. Anger did more for me by being turned out than it ever did being turned inward.
I send love and good energy to each of you and to those who share a common burden alongside us, and kisses for all your scars.