Are Gay Couples Real Americans?
by Tommy Tomlinson
Here's what it gets down to on the issue of gay marriage: Are gay people Americans or not?
That's the place where it has to end up. That's where the river goes.
And now that a Massachusetts court has opened the door for gay marriages, the rest of us have to decide.
Before you make up your mind, consider who can get married in America: Interracial couples, interfaith couples, immigrant couples, the divorced, the 10-times-divorced, kids as young as 14 (in North Carolina), people who met five minutes ago, people five minutes from dying, killers, thieves, and Michael Jackson.
The whole basis of our system -- the reason this is the greatest country in the history of the world -- is that we Americans are generally able to live our lives the way we see fit.
In this country, not liking something isn't reason enough to forbid it. Any restriction to our freedom has to be specific. It has to carry serious moral and logical weight.
None of the arguments against gay marriage is strong enough.
The point of marriage is to have children and provide them with a mother and a father.
This would make more sense if we had a couple of other laws. Like a law saying that couples who get married have to have children. Or a law saying that once you had children, you couldn't get divorced.
Any takers on those?
The ideal place for a child is in a family with a mother and a father. But we straight folks have forfeited the high ground on this one.
When we stop shuffling kids around between two sets of parents, or raising kids who never know their fathers, or dumping kids into foster homes, then we can gripe. Until then, we ought to shut up about what makes a proper family.
Gay marriage sanctions immorality.
The idea behind this is that being gay is a sin. That's for God to decide. But America decided long ago that sinners are citizens, too.
Our laws have always held that most behavior is legal as long as it doesn't threaten others. You want to get drunk? Fine, but don't get behind the wheel. You want to sleep around? Fine, but no means no.
Of course there are limits to marriage. You can't marry a 10-year-old. You can't marry your sister. But otherwise, American history and tradition say that consenting adults can do what they want.
And if you want to throw the Bible in there, remember the Gospel of Mark: "It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God."
When you decide to outlaw the rich, get back to me.
Look, I don't understand homosexuality any better than you do. I don't know if gay people are that way from birth or if they somehow choose to be gay, even if they don't know they're choosing.
What I do know is that it doesn't matter. In the eyes of the law, we're all equal.
And if a gay couple wants to get married, it's un-American to say no.