I make this post in honor of my friends bigfundrew and solauris, who have shown more bravery and character in the past year of their respective journeys than most people I've ever met in my lifetime. You inspire me and I love and adore you both immensely for it, perhaps one day I'll find a way to prove it.
For those of you who don't know already, today is National Coming Out Day.
I'm taking this opportunity to post links to previous entries that I wrote in the hope that it would inspire people who felt ostracized or otherwise cut off from the rest of us. With organizations like PFLAG
urging people to be who they know they are, to live fearlessly and honestly, I think back to myself at age 15 when I chose to come out having no resources available to me whatsoever.
I'm glad things are different now and have changed so drastically in the 19 years. I've lived without the fear of what people might think about me or the fear of rejection, and I'm a better man for all of the struggle it took to get me here. It is necessary to be who you know you are. I know it is difficult for many and not a choice to be made lightly, but we all have a responsibility to ourselves to BE our authentic selves. It's too goddamned hard working to maintain living a lie when you don't have to, and we all deserve to be happy and fulfilled. So for all of you in this struggle with self identity, know that I've been where you are - we all have - and I'm telling you now, no prison is as hard to survive as the one you put yourself in. Maybe you've done it so long you think it's working for you, but it isn't and you have to know that. You've already done the hardest part, and that is making yourself miserable to keep everyone else content and happy, but you deserve some of that for yourself you know. Be strong, and let me know if there's anything I can help with.
YES - YOU - CAN
- Take a stand! (17th-Feb-2004)
- Reagan Is Dead, I Will Shed No Tears. (7th-Jun-2004)
- On November 20, 1995, Steven Powsner, died of complications from AIDS at age 40. He had been President of the New York City Lesbian and Gay Community Services Center from 1992-1994. This letter was written by his friend, Matt Foreman, Executive Director National Gay and Lesbian Task Force (17th-Jun-2004)
- For Gabi and for Bill, with all of my love and respect (20th-Oct-2004 )
- "If a bullet should enter my brain, let that bullet destroy every closet door in the country." - On Harvey Milk, Coming Out, Pride, and the Love of My Friends & Family (9th-Jun-2005)
- That's MISTER Faggot to you. If you never read another post in my journal, please read this one in its entirety. (8th-Jun-2005)
- More on Harvey Milk (3rd-Mar-2005)
- On Gender and Normality, whatever the hell THAT is. (14th-Jun-2005)
- A Questionnaire For All You Heterosexuals - Because I care about you and I want you really think about this lifestyle and its consequences. (5th-May-2004)
Read these posts at your leisure, link to them, point them out for others to read - knock yourself out, speak your own truth.