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BACK DOOR BOY IN A FRONT DOOR WORLD
OUTSIDE OF SOCIETY - THAT'S WHERE I WANT TO BE
My Evening With The Mormons 
5th-Dec-2008 11:26 am
The two young Mormon missionaries that came to talk to me last Friday came back last night after I'd offered the time for them to come and talk with me. They brought reinforcements as well since they knew they would be dealing with an out & proud homosexual antitheist atheist. I kind of half expected that, but no matter. They were all very kind, charming, and soft spoken.

I'd made a big pot of red gravy (meat sauce for pasta for you of non-Italian lineage) as Damien wanted spaghetti for dinner. I always make more than we will eat in one sitting either for company or for leftovers. I reasoned that the guys coming might now have had a real, home cooked, family style meal and wanted them to have an opportunity for one while we talked. I knew they would probably turn me down, but I made the offer all the same and they did actually turn down the offer. No matter, I offered them use of the bathroom and gave them something to drink as we were getting settled around the table for our talk.

In all, I think they spent probably an hour and change talking with me. I could tell they didn't know quite how to take me as I was polite, gracious, humble, and could quote scripture. I spoke of philosophy and scholars when they brought up Socrates and Plato (also reminding them that both were gay) as well as other world religions whose self made prophets I'd spoken with in the past. They told me of their prophet, I told them of imams and rabbis and Quakers I'd had conversations with previously. They made the attempt to talk about the Book of Mormon, citing Enos in Chapter 1 - and I told them how it plagiarized Ephesians. They asked me if I knew anything about the unbelievers as depicted in Nephi, and I responded with the context of non-Mormons as written in 3 Nephi 1 wherein it is stated that 'we' had a day set aside just to kill the faithful as if it were a national holiday (or something equally ridiculous), and how the mere notion of this was offensive as it was written specifically to vilify and paled in comparison to the vengeful depictions of God and Jesus Christ in that same chapter alone. The entirety of the Book of Mormon is rendered lame anyway in 3 Nephi 23:6 wherein is stated "And now it came to pass that when Jesus had said these words he said unto them again, after he had expounded all the scriptures unto them which they had received, he said unto them: Behold, other scriptures I would that ye should write, that ye have not." Lastly, there is the fact that Joseph Smith was a criminal and a con man, and the book of Mormon is a 19th century book written in 16th century English, which no one even spoke at the time, further proving it a giant fraud.

I asked them to validate a suspicion I have about them in assuming that I simply 'don't get it', that I'm misguided and that I couldn't be more wrong. They smiled and I asked them if they wished to discuss it, but would only allow the discussion if they would seriously consider the possibility that I was right and they were in fact wrong. I asked if they knew of Blaise Pascal and explained Pascal's Wager, asking them if they felt it was a reasonable thing to ascribe to. Once they agreed that it was better to default to a position of belief in God rather than an atheistic view as insurance for a passage to heaven after physical death, I asked if they could not understand how insulting that must be to a truly all knowing, omnipotent God who knows he/she is being scammed and literally mocked. They kind of in turn stared blankly at me and one another, became wide eyed and nervously grinned at me. Then the younger of the three agreed with me that there was no way to literally prove the existence of God, and the older (eldest?) Elder gave him the stink eye for it in my periphery. I told them in the beginning that I had no interest in converting them to my way of thinking, and that I didn't need anyone to agree with me in order for me to be right. I explained that if nothing else, I wanted them to come away from the experience of talking with me and being able to say to others that no matter how misguided they may believe I am that I was hospitable and fair, and treated them with kindness and respect. Which I'm sure not many people they talk with actually do, least of all nonbelievers. When asked if I knew of God's plan, I explained that I had read and discussed the subject at length for years with other people including academics and that in its most distilled form, God's plan included a lot of atrocious suffering of innocents that I will never be okay with or find a way to even label as acceptable collateral damage. I won't accept a plan that legitimizes genocide.

They asked me initially if I ever believed in God, and I explained that I did not - but not because I didn't try and not because I hadn't read everything I could on the subjects of religion, philosophy, and scripture - but because in the most simple ways, none of it made real sense to me and I felt no sense of innate goodness or divination in my heart when making the effort to believe as a young man. It has always seemed irrational, unlikely, and highly suspect to me that supernatural, omnipotent, all-knowing and divine beings roamed freely about us without offering a single shred of incontrovertible proof of their existences. When asked if I knew that we were all sinners, I responded that I had never sinned a day in my life, that sin was a concept reserved for people who believe in such things and I myself had no need of it. That with or without religion, or an acceptance of Godlike benevolence, good people will do good things and bad people will do bad things (to indirectly quote Steven Weinberg) and on occasion those two elements will intersect - but you don't need religion or benevolence for any of that, all you need is the will and commitment to be a good person or not. I explained that I'm sure this is a radical concept to them and I could understand how much of what I said might seem both reasonable and horrifyingly blasphemous to them, but it was my honest opinion. I added that one does not need religion in order to be moral, kind, or even charitable as I certainly don't, and yet I'm all of those things and never brag about it or use those traits to curry favor for entry into some cosmic, after-life theme park in the clouds.

I asked them if they had seen the film "Latter Days" and gave them a synopsis of it, explaining that there comes a time when you have to decide who you know you are in this life versus who you are expected to be, who you are told you have to be, for reasons of fear demanding the preservation of one's own salvation - unless you were able to make the hardest decisions for yourself - it is the will and desire of others that prevents many people who follow a path from ever realizing their potential as fully functioning beings.

The question of an afterlife and how/why we are here was asked of me. I explained that the 'how' reasoning of my coming into existence happened in the spring of 1970 when my father's sperm met my mother's ovum on my parents' dining room table and the science of conception - independent of any prophetical magic - occurred. The 'why' reasoning of my coming into existence was of no interest to me whatsoever. I don't care why I'm here, I give no thought to such things - it is enough for me THAT I am here. I value my life as I believe that it is the only form of one I will ever have, and that when I die and my cells cease to work I will become part of the earth and fertilize a new living thing - and having this one opportunity is what gives me the drive to get the most out of it that I can. This is also what encourages me to be the most kind, loving, generous, and thoughtful person I can be. The two younger guys told me that this was a mind-blowing concept to them and that they have never heard of such a thing, let alone considered it, and appreciated me sharing it with them. I reassured them that I understand this isn't for everyone and that my life choices were my own and that I didn't mind having a minority opinion.

Near the end of the conversation I was asked if I ever prayed. I said no, that prayer was reserved for those who both needed it and believed in the power of making wishes and seeing them come true by chance and considering that a prayer answered. When asked if I'd try it, I asked if they would go to a pool hall with me to smoke, curse like sailors, and do shots of Jagermeister until we're so drunk that we cannot lay face down on the floor without trying to hold on to it. I explained that I knew they could no more participate in such a thing than I could pray to a God I don't believe exists.

It was time for them to go, so I offered them the use of the bathroom and made a last ditch effort to feed them but they politely declined again and we all shook hands and thanked one another for the time. We parted company smiling at one another having sincerely found each other likeable and gracious. I thanked them again for taking the time, they thanked me for allowing so much of it, and we said goodnight. All in all, it was a pleasant evening and time I feel was well spent.
Comments 
5th-Dec-2008 04:32 pm (UTC)
Damn you.

I was sincerely hoping for something more DVD worthy.
5th-Dec-2008 04:53 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I'm still not into blonde twinks. Beside that, I had an agenda to be the opposite of what they had been told I was and instead wanted to prove myself on my own merits - which would have been difficult had they been cubby fellers!
5th-Dec-2008 04:44 pm (UTC)
there comes a time when you have to decide who you know you are in this life versus who you are expected to be, who you are told you have to be, for reasons of fearful demanding the preservation of one's own salvation - unless you were able to make the hardest decisions for yourself - it is the will and desire of others that prevents many people who follow a path from ever realizing their potential as fully functioning beings.


um...dammmmmmmmmmmnnn


you made such amazing points here
I shall read this several more times.

Edited at 2008-12-05 04:45 pm (UTC)
5th-Dec-2008 04:54 pm (UTC)
Thanks, babydoll - I really enjoyed the experience, it was very satisfying and made me feel good to have offered to feed them! I should have made Frito pie, no one can resist that stuff...
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5th-Dec-2008 04:55 pm (UTC)
I hadn't considered that, but yes - I totally - GLADLY would.
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5th-Dec-2008 04:59 pm (UTC) - an honor to read
This is an amazing post. I enjoyed and appreciate the grace and intelligence you used to maintain your perspective and have a loving, thoughtful discourse with these mormons.

big ups to you
5th-Dec-2008 05:20 pm (UTC) - Re: an honor to read
Thanks, babe!
5th-Dec-2008 05:06 pm (UTC)
It ain't easy being green, but I'm sure it's even harder when people are constantly asking why you don't choose to be pink instead. They'll have to remember this the next time someone wants to fire them up with some homophobic rhetoric.
5th-Dec-2008 05:21 pm (UTC)
Let's not count on it but still hope so!
5th-Dec-2008 05:11 pm (UTC)
This sounds like a good evening. You've given them a lot to think about. I especially love you for not having any investment in changing their beliefs or world views.

I hope you will be a friend to them during the time they are assigned to their duties in your city.

[Edit: I already know you would gladly act as a friend for them if they asked. I hope they ask.]

Edited at 2008-12-05 05:12 pm (UTC)
5th-Dec-2008 05:25 pm (UTC)
Oh, absolutely. I even told them I would defend them and their rights to believe, practice, and worship as they saw fit as fellow Americans - and that I dared anyone to be rude or unkind to them in my presence. I had a friend years ago slam the door in the faces of similar missionaries after saying incredibly rude things to them - I've never spoken to him since and brought those same people to my home for cookies, lemonade, and the luxury of air conditioning in the oppressive Georgia summer heat. A storm popped up and I wouldn't let them leave until it was safe as the wind and lightning were dangerous - and was told how few 'good Christians' of a different stripe had ever been as kind. Makes one think!
5th-Dec-2008 05:26 pm (UTC)
Wow. You're an amazing person. To invest that much time, effort, and forethought on Mormon missionaries, people most of the population merely brush off, is scary cool. I've tried to engage our local LDS door-to-door salesmen in logical conversations, but then they usually don't have the time.

I wish you'd recorded it, audio or video.




On your parents' dining room table?
5th-Dec-2008 05:29 pm (UTC)
Yeah, there was lots I wanted to discuss but left for another time - Prop 8 and the LDS involvement in that - but there's always an opportunity for it another time. This meeting/discussion was exactly what I had hoped for.

Yes, the dining room table. My mother told me this years ago, we're very open about matters of religion, sex, and politics. She told me this because she thinks it might be a direct correlation to my passion for cooking and feeding people well.
5th-Dec-2008 05:47 pm (UTC)
I was raised in a mormon family. I left when I was 12. I feel sick every time I hear about how one of my siblings off spring has turned 18 and is now "going on a mission". (vomits in mouth just a little)... I always thought I was smart enough to get out why cant anyone else. One thing I do know is that when they come knocking on my door now I feel some what obligated to waste there time in hopes that I am preventing them from doing there so called job. But its that kindness thing about them that is un-trust worthy. They travel in pacts so just in case one of them might get hit by a little truth the other one is there to reprogram them. Its amazing they came in three. You must have struck a chord with one of them. There is so much I would like to say but I don't want repeat things that I am sure you plainly are aware of. But you are still just another lost faggot soul to them.
Its my dream one day to get them in my house and get there pants down around there ankles. yummy fresh un-soiled meat.
5th-Dec-2008 07:00 pm (UTC)
WOW - I'll bet you have lots to say on the subject!

Yeah, they were definitely 'cute', but 'cute' does nothing for me. Besides that, they were quite Aryan looking, which REALLY doesn't do anything for me with incredibly rare exception. To say nothing of the fact that I prefer older to younger.
5th-Dec-2008 05:50 pm (UTC)
I'm duly impressed, both with you patience and your civility. In the end, this is the kind of dialoge that does change peoples minds and positions.
5th-Dec-2008 07:00 pm (UTC)
As I told another friend before, let's not count on that but still hope for it!
5th-Dec-2008 05:56 pm (UTC)
I love how you were the perfect gracious host. Wish I had half that amount of class when dealing with those folks.
5th-Dec-2008 07:01 pm (UTC)
This was easy for me - but I know it's not everyone that has my brand of patience.
5th-Dec-2008 05:56 pm (UTC)
Fascinating. I've only once encountered such an open Mormon, and he was a student at NYU film school. Congrats on a well-spent evening of mutual education and intellectual discussion, these are the things that keep our minds functioning, and are, for me at least, great fun!

:)
5th-Dec-2008 07:03 pm (UTC)
First, ICON, FTW! We get them on occasion here, and I just cannot turn the opportunity down.
5th-Dec-2008 06:14 pm (UTC)
I love watching your journal, you're insightful and intelligent. The point that I find most intriguing in this post is that you gave them food for thought and made it clear that you were looking to have a meaningful discussion from the outset.

When I was at uni, my housemates and I tried to have a similar conversation with some Jehovah's Witnesses who arrived on our doorstep. We let them in, sat in the living room with tea and coffee and began to talk. It was an interesting group, the two Witnesses, a Pagan, a Roman Catholic, a Hindi and a member of the Church of England all sat in the same room.

I have a fair knowledge of the beliefs of the other religious groups that were in the room as I was raised by a Catholic father, CofE mother, have a Jehovah's Witness aunt and had often had religious discussions with my Hindi friend. The thing that struck me was the lack profound lack of ability of the Jehovah's Witnesses who visited us to understand that everyone has the right to worship or not to worship. That faith is not necessary for everyone and that there are good people like yourself who live outside of religious doctrine.

I had it pointed out to me that as a Pagan and someone who had received a blood transfusion as an infant that I was bound for hell. I answered simply that I respected their belief in heaven and hell but I do not believe in the latter. And as for the former, the Pagan view on Heaven is remarkably different to their view. My RC and C of E housemates pointed out that a blood transfusion would not stop me going to heaven according to their doctrines and my Hindi friend agreed that a blood transfusion was no cause for me to be condemned, especially as I did not have the option to choose as I was six weeks old when it took place. The JW's became extremely offended by this, declared us all as fit for hell and left.

We'd remained civil with them throughout the conversation and having spoken to my aunt about it since, I've come to realise that they were having difficulties with someone challenging what they were saying, especially when three of us had a high level of understanding of the Bible and that I had been exposed to their beliefs often as a child (my aunt would take me to Kingdom Hall meetings and pray that no one found out I'd had a blood transfusion).
5th-Dec-2008 07:04 pm (UTC)
That was my aim, for sure.

We have conflicting religions in my family and friends as well, but I must say that the JW people are quite a frightening lot.
5th-Dec-2008 06:27 pm (UTC)
Wow.

I am positively floored.

This could be a book or a movie or a TV episode.

The fact that it is real life is even that much more satisfying.

Find a way to share this with everybody!!

Amazing.
5th-Dec-2008 07:05 pm (UTC)
Well, feel free to link to this post! I have it on my Facebook page as well!!
5th-Dec-2008 06:47 pm (UTC)
I'm here from docjeff. I've had my own lengthy dinner discussions with the local Mormon boys. Twas fun introducing them to Paganism. I went journal surfing while I was here and am friending you, if that's okay with you.
5th-Dec-2008 07:05 pm (UTC)
I don't mind at all!
5th-Dec-2008 06:58 pm (UTC) - Atheist display stolen/returned
5th-Dec-2008 07:07 pm (UTC) - Re: Atheist display stolen/returned
Not at all surprising that someone would have defaced it, nor is my suspicion that it is someone who'd cry foul if an atheist did the same to a Christmas themed similar sign.
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