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Going Through A Rough Time 
12th-Mar-2008 02:14 pm
I'm not doing so well right now. Things are starting to pile up on me and I'm having a bit of a rough go of sorting it out. Normally I can prioritize strife and focus on things that deserve the attention and dismiss those that don't, but there are multiple things going on that are really beginning to weigh me down and causing me to want to withdraw REALLY badly. It's an urge I'm resisting, but it's difficult when every instinct I have to dig in my heels and fight has gone away somewhere and what I want is to crawl into a cave until I feel like it is safe to come back out again. I know that a lot (if not all) of it is a choice. I'm not sure if I believe in such things as the universe is testing me, but that is certainly what it feels like. I woke up feeling incredibly sad, and because it is such a quiet day I've tried to fill it with background noise to cut the deafening silence. Part of it I am sure is my normal struggle with depression, but right now I feel it is the result of a preponderance of outside forces not working against me necessarily, but certainly creating havoc in my own life.

Damien and I have been doing well, very well in fact, but when I am in this rut I feel as though he deserves better than what I give him, even though I love him with everything I have. I don't believe I am worthy of him on a good day because he's just the best, most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me, and I cannot imagine at times like this what he could possibly find in a miserable bastard like me that keeps him so close. Self doubt, however irrational and illogical, is a bitch to overcome. I know it's only a phase and that it will pass in time and I'll go back to feeling like my old self again, but that's where I am right now.

Politics - my passion - is my nemesis right now. I feel incredibly defeated and horribly let down for so many reasons, and the constant sniping between the politicians and their fan bases has really kicked me in the ass. I'm starting to take personally things I need not take personally. Things that don't even have anything to do with me I'm taking personally. For a man that holds the things he believes in very tightly, I find now that I'm filled with doubt. I fear hoping, I fear wishing, and mostly I fear having faith in people I'm terrified will let me down. I've had enough of that to last me a lifetime already, which leads me to my family.

Damien's parents have pissed me off, let me down, and disappointed me tremendously. I'm extremely bitter and angry as a result. What's more is they've known that I'm upset with them and their choices, but have failed to try and resolve any of it from their end. My own blood family has little to do with Damien and I at the best of times, so I've continued distancing myself from them and have in the past relied on his family to fill in the gaps - but they're apparently about as invested in me as my blood family. It makes me incredibly angry and spiteful, because they're supposed to take better care of us than they all have. They all just want it on their own terms and no one else's. Fine - but let me have no part of that. I don't want it and neither does he.

People in my chosen family are not stepping up and making the best choices they are capable of. It's infuriating, because it's not as if we don't all know how to make good choices for ourselves and each other. I'm not even getting into that, because if I do I'll just sink further and I don't have the energy right now.

Add to all of this that my allergies are making all of this more difficult and miserable, and it's barely even started yet. I'm eating healthy when I can actually make myself hungry, which is fleeting and only once or twice a day anyway, so at least there's that. Sleep has been more restless than usual. My joy is gone on hiatus again, and even though I'm well aware that all of this is going to pass (it always does), I just don't care right now about much of anything. Perhaps it is a defensive reasoning of my subconscious to just shut me down emotionally in many areas to prevent overload, which is where I've felt I was heading. That actually makes a great deal of sense, but doesn't really make me feel any better. There will be time for that later.

The air show is this weekend, and I always have a good time there. Hopefully that will be the cure for some of this. I'll be fine once I get this stuff sorted out, I always do one way or another.
12th-Mar-2008 11:09 pm (UTC)
I don't have a lick of relevant wisdom. But I'd give you a hug. I've felt like this.
13th-Mar-2008 02:31 pm (UTC)
Hugs make everything better - cyber or in real time - so I thank you.
12th-Mar-2008 11:11 pm (UTC)
Now sure how I could help other than offering a hug!
13th-Mar-2008 02:31 pm (UTC)
Hugs make everything better - cyber or in real time - so I thank you.
13th-Mar-2008 12:31 am (UTC)
You've just described the mood of the past decade of my life, culminating in the last 4 years of nearly total despondence. It's taking me a lot of effort to revive myself in tandem with the positive changes, to develop that ability to value and care about anything.
13th-Mar-2008 02:33 pm (UTC)
I cannot even ponder how I could function that long like this, and it tears my heart out that you've had to. I cannot fix anyone but myself - but if ever I can help you, please let me know.
13th-Mar-2008 02:55 am (UTC)
Thoughts are with you. Life often gets in the way of itself.
13th-Mar-2008 02:33 pm (UTC)
Indeed - and this also is a fleeting thing for me, so I'm just biding my time until it passes.
13th-Mar-2008 03:03 am (UTC)
If I was still a drinker, I'd ask you to close out the bar with me. . .

What a great, unvarnished post. . .keep choppin' wood and carryin' water, and you'll end up fine. . .

The dark will show a light. . .

I'm there with you brother. . .
13th-Mar-2008 02:35 pm (UTC)
If we closed a bar, you know we'd be out looking for a fight. I have no doubt in my mind about this, which is why I'm glad you don't drink and I don't go to bars!

I love you, Mark. And yes - you are my brother. Better to me even than my own brother, whose name is also Mark.
13th-Mar-2008 05:36 pm (UTC)
Hugs to you. I relate heavily with the "don't believe I'm worthy of him" feelings and the self doubt. I've also been sick for the past week and it doesn't seem to be going away soon. As for politics, I've never been as involved as you, but I do care, but it's getting harder and harder not to become disenchanted with it all.

I have no words of wisdom other than take care of yourself and know that you are loved.
14th-Mar-2008 10:47 am (UTC)
I love you too, sweetness - I hope for start feeling better immediately, I'm sending good energy.
24th-Mar-2008 10:16 pm (UTC) - sitting in silence
I recognize in you a heart that the vast majority of the world is not ready for... with that gift comes a great burden at times.

I am late catching up with LJ stuff.. I've seen you since this post. I was almost too embarassed to respond... at this late date. I was feeling alot of the same things during my visit... and have been fighting the urge to crawl into my own cave. What I really wanted was to have you to myself. I was trying not to be selfish. Toward the end of my trip I just gave up on my stuff and retreated away from them all and waited patiently until it was time for home (where I can be quiet and no one notices). In times like these, while there may not be a quick fix or a fix at all... it is comforting just to sit and look out a window with someone else who's heart hears your own.

I am so glad you are my chosen family. Feel free to bitch slap me when I'm not paying close enough attention. I love you! My BeRad!

25th-Mar-2008 12:04 am (UTC) - Re: sitting in silence

Never be embarrassed, we're well beyond that nonsense. Yeah, I could tell you weren't in the best of sorts, but it wasn't an appropriate time (or audience) to address that sort of thing.

Likewise! I'd never bitchslap you - metaphorically or otherwise. I love you too, my A-Pooh!
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