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Open Letter To Anti-Gay Heterosexuals 
7th-Mar-2008 11:47 am
Me & D
Dear Anti-Gay Heterosexuals,
Next month I will be celebrating 6 years of committment between myself and the love of my life, and we are very proud of that fact. We made it to this point and will continue to do so because we love one another and because we choose to do the necessary work to keep ourselves worthy of one another. We did all of this without your approval, your respect, your concern, or your blessing - because not once in 6 years have we ever needed that from you, let alone wanted it. Conversely, if your own relationships have thrived or failed, it most certainly is not because of us or anyone like us. You own those successes or failures exclusively, so get right with that.

We have no interest in marriage equality. Sure, we would enjoy the same 1,049 + benefits you take for granted as an advantage of legal marriage, but that is about it. We have no interest in defiling your churches with our presence for any reason, let alone a ceremonious one - so you are safe from us in that aspect as well. The main reason we have no interest in marriage equality is because, quite simply, in order for us to be equal we would have to be the same - and we like being who we are and wish in no way to model ourselves after your behavior. There's nothing particularly appealing to us about being heterosexual ourselves. Another reason is because we refuse to be the villains you paint us out to be. That's all about you and has nothing to do with us and it never has. Your absurdities in both language and action amount to a great deal of fearmongering, but that only works on those who choose to live in fear - and we do not. You win at scare tactics, but you fail at reasoned argument as a basis for anything other than abject bigotry.

We'll go on to do amazing things with ourselves, our family of choice, and the love we communally share with those worthy enough to receive it. Think what you will and be as virulent as you like, it doesn't make the slightest bit of difference because we're on to you. We're not responsible for you or anything about you, only ourselves. As to the marriage issue, you can keep that one. The rate of divorce in this country hovers steadily around 50-52%, meaning that roughly half end in divorce and the other half in death. We find nothing sanctimonious about that, in fact, it's nothing we care to model ourselves after. In that respect, we not only believe we're better than that, we know we are.

We're shameless faggots - and we're better than you are in that one thing than you will ever be at anything in your entire lives.
7th-Mar-2008 05:48 pm (UTC)
I'm not an anti-gay heterosexual, and I don't see you as villains, but can I wish you both many years of happiness?

Congrats! This year Larry and I will be together 39 years. Probably longer than you've been alive and we were told it wouldn't last too.

Commitment is not created in a church or on a piece of paper. It is... not defined by your sex or your religious affiliation. It is... the daily getting up and facing each other warts and all,dirty laundry,dirty dishes, bad breath, bad moods, and bad days. It is... struggling through the disasters and sharing the tiny joys.

It is... seeing each other age and still finding your SO beautiful. It is long walks on the beach, scrumptious dinners, giving and receiving gifts and it is... also holding each other when bad news comes, being there at 3AM when they are sick and you have to go to work at 5 AM.

It is... holding on when everything inside you wants to give up. It is... the real communication of love between two people who *choose* to commit their lives together and share everything that life throws their way good or bad. That's what love is Charlie Brown.

(Sorry I couldn't resist. It was starting to sound like a Charlie Brown cartoon speech.)LOL

May you have 39+ years of happiness with each other!

Love ya!

8th-Mar-2008 05:53 pm (UTC)
Thanks, darlin'! 39 years - WOW, that's amazing!!!!

Love you both!
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8th-Mar-2008 05:53 pm (UTC)
Merci, cher!
7th-Mar-2008 06:37 pm (UTC)
Excellent!! This should be in a paper, book, tabloid, etc!
8th-Mar-2008 05:53 pm (UTC)
Why thank you!
7th-Mar-2008 06:44 pm (UTC)
I adore you.
8th-Mar-2008 05:53 pm (UTC)
And I you!
7th-Mar-2008 07:06 pm (UTC)
*smiles* You've made my day brighter with this. Thank you!
8th-Mar-2008 05:53 pm (UTC)
7th-Mar-2008 08:37 pm (UTC)
Word to your mother.
8th-Mar-2008 05:53 pm (UTC)
Werd to tha muthaberd!
7th-Mar-2008 09:04 pm (UTC)
Congrats to the both of you. May many more happy years come your way. (:
8th-Mar-2008 05:54 pm (UTC)
Thankies, and likewise!
7th-Mar-2008 09:53 pm (UTC)
This deservers much applause!!!

You both go on and continue to be more AMAZING everyday!!!

Congrats and MUCH LOVE to you and D both!!!

8th-Mar-2008 05:54 pm (UTC)
You give the BESTEST applause, D!

Indeed, no worries on that one!

You too, sweetness!
8th-Mar-2008 04:27 am (UTC)
Hell yeah!!

I've always wondered with this 'protecting the sanctity of marriage' bullshit is when hets screw it up all by themselves.

Congrats on the 6 years, man. That is fantastic.
8th-Mar-2008 05:55 pm (UTC)
I know, right?

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8th-Mar-2008 05:55 pm (UTC)
Deal, and thanks!
8th-Mar-2008 03:31 pm (UTC)
I just love what you have written - thank you for saying what I have been musing in my head for sometime. My thoughts don't often make it to paper - but you have nailed it balls to walls.
8th-Mar-2008 05:56 pm (UTC)
Welcome, I knew it would resonate with many people.

Thanks, love!
8th-Mar-2008 09:12 pm (UTC)
It did with me. It would be a treat to talk to you and hear from the angry biscuit in person.
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8th-Mar-2008 05:56 pm (UTC)
9th-Mar-2008 01:59 am (UTC) - Yea the Biscuitman Cometh
This is fantastic stuff.
You guys are awesome, and I love that picture as well.

Edited at 2008-03-09 02:00 am (UTC)
11th-Mar-2008 03:51 am (UTC)
As an asexual lesbian who married a guy (no, to my way of thinking none of those terms--"asexual," "lesbian," and "married a guy"--are mutually exclusive), and is only accepted by her mother in the States because the person she fell in love with happened to be male, I thank you for writing this.
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