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Friends List/Adding/Deleting 
10th-Nov-2006 07:11 am
I have a drama-free add/remove policy. If you don't want me on your friends list, take me off - really, it's fine. Do what you have to do, because I damned sure am going to do what I have to do. If that includes saying things you may not agree with, then that's cool too. Everyone has a choice and different/varying levels of what they find acceptable. Bottom line - MY blog, MY content, MY rules. I'll post whatever I feel like posting and I give -0- thought to who might take issue with it or who might jump on my bandwagon. That is what I encourage in everyone. If something resonates with you, great - if it pisses you off, that's great too as far as I'm concerned. I do not and will not make apologies to anyone for who I am. It took a long time for me to be able to say that, and I'll be goddamned if I'm turning my back on that.

I've recently had a big flood of folks add me to their friends lists (288 I've not added back), but I'm not at all opposed to adding you back as long as you'll do me the courtesy of commenting to this post and making it easier on me. It would also be nice if you'd let me know exactly why you read this blog as I'm curious. If you're on my friends list, you'll have access to all of my music posts and such, which are locked down.

Here's the thing, though. If I read everything on my friends list, I'd never have time for anything else. I never ever read my normal friends list, I have it divided up into filters of close personal friends, politics, RSS feeds, news, smut, art, & music. It varies which filter I read at any given time depending on my mood. If ever there's something you'd like to direct my attention to, reply to any of my posts with a link and a subject line that reads "Check this out" or "Thought you might be interested in ____" or something like that. If you don't then chances are I won't see some things you may like me to read.
Comments 
10th-Nov-2006 12:21 pm (UTC)
Hi Jude.

My name is Michael. I added you because you are my kee da da.

Thank you.
10th-Nov-2006 12:30 pm (UTC) - OMG, you are MY Kee da da too!
10th-Nov-2006 12:40 pm (UTC)
Hello there...

I came one step closer to enlightenment in reading your blogs by way of Andy Miles' Friends Posts. I continue to read what I can see of your journal because, honestly, I find your posts to be at least one of the following: insightful, informative, encouraging, or just absolutely fucking hysterical.

I won't be at all offended by your not friending me because I doubt I post about anything you'd find remotely interesting. I tend to keep politics and such at arms length and absorb what I feel is relevant to my being through trusted sources. So I don't post about that. I don't usually post about the goings-on of my most intimate details, save those for my own inner-circle. Other than that, what most can see is my daily goings-on and my own personal rantings. *shrug*

Hope this answers your question...
Happy Friday,
Nick
10th-Nov-2006 01:52 pm (UTC)
Andy is the best. I'm adding anyone that comments here so they can have access to the friends-only stuff. ;-)
10th-Nov-2006 12:41 pm (UTC)
I added you over a year ago when I stumbled onto one of your post, I think it was God Hates Stupid Homophobes! post and banner, I enjoy all your posts and agree with you most of the time. Your post on abuse also hit a cord with me. I find you inspiring and I have actually become more aware of things because of your LJ. I am always quoting you on my LJ *snort*

Have you seen Ted Haggard piece from The Daily Show from November 6th 2006 on Youtube

its extremely funny :P
10th-Nov-2006 01:50 pm (UTC)
Posted the video, DYING laughing at this one! Thanks for the heads up!
10th-Nov-2006 12:44 pm (UTC)
When there's ever any drama regarding friends lists and such, I find that people just seem to think they're entitled to everything, and that's why it happens. For whatever reasons, there's a weird sense of entitlement, especially on LiveJournal! And that drives me up a wall...
10th-Nov-2006 12:48 pm (UTC)
Oh, and I added you because I was browsing LJs and my friend and former roommate lothealian had you on her list.

You have become my resource for things to show my corridormates (who are all Swedes or Germans) because they seem to not think that Americans care very much (I wonder why...).
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10th-Nov-2006 01:21 pm (UTC)
I read your blog and have you on my friends list because you're pissed off about most of the same things I'm pissed off about, and write about them in such a way that makes me want to hump your frontal lobe.

p.s. you're also easy on the eyes :P
10th-Nov-2006 01:54 pm (UTC)
Likewise, mister. *lick*
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10th-Nov-2006 01:45 pm (UTC)
AB, I have been reading your LJ for about 6 months now and I must say that your LJ is the one that I have learned the most from. You haven't friended me back, and that's cool, you would be bored by my LJ anyway. However, I have you linked at my brand new blog TVC because I want my reaeders and visitors there to be exposed to what you have to say on political issues from a gay male POV, esp considering the theme of said blog.

Anyway, I totally support your comment about saying what the hell you want to say and not giving a damn what others think. I cleaned up my LJ list long ago, too much fucking drama! LJ is suppose to be fun, not a place to walk on eggshells around.

Keep up the great work of expressing yourself, and edumacating folk. ;-)
10th-Nov-2006 02:03 pm (UTC)
Will check out TVC and add it to the blogroll next time I make changes - you've been added back, BTW.
10th-Nov-2006 01:54 pm (UTC)
I added you long ago because of some of your political commentary. I don't always agree with you, but even when I don't agree, you give me something to think about. I like the fact that you are unabashedly yourself with no excuses, its refreshing. Add me or not as you wish, I've got no ego associated with who has friended me or not.
10th-Nov-2006 02:24 pm (UTC)
My whole goal in making my political posts & such public is to spark debate and encourage people to consider things - not to get people to agree with me. I thank you for showing me that it works!

I'm less interested in having people agree with me, I'd rather inspire people to seek out their own thing and ride it 'til the goddamned wheels fall off.
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10th-Nov-2006 05:08 pm (UTC)
O-KAY???
10th-Nov-2006 02:17 pm (UTC)
I added you as a friend because, like others here, you seem to be able to articulate a lot clearer then I ever could how we feel about the political landscape that we are all in, aren't afraid to say exactly what's on your mind, have good taste in music (and porn come to think of it), and seem to have a heart that comes out on occasion on here. It isn't important if you friend me back, but you will always be welcome to. I just appreciate the service you provide (trying to keep my mind out of the gutter).
10th-Nov-2006 02:45 pm (UTC)
Added back!
10th-Nov-2006 02:28 pm (UTC)
Hi, I'm Andrea from Berlin, Germany.
I came here on recommendation of city_of_dis.

We had a small conversation after I commented on your Auschwitz posting.
I didn't introduce myself (I said Hello after I offered some Peter Murphy stuff you were asking about, I guess), because, I don't know, I don't take myself and my journal too important.

I'm 40, lesbian, working at a political foundation (near to the Green Party) in Berlin. I love movies, music and writing and I'm into script writing.

My journal is about movies, concerts, traveling, Germany, some politics and anything that draws my attention. My last two postings were about the Pogrom Night of 1938 and about the new Synagogue in Munich.
10th-Nov-2006 05:14 pm (UTC)
I'm so glad you've commented - I wanted to thank you again for the PM offering, that was very thoughtful of you.

I've added you back, let me know if there are posts I should get caught up on!
10th-Nov-2006 02:41 pm (UTC)
I also came here at the recommendation of city_of_dis...M-A's opinions and writing are things I respect, so if he sings the high praises of somebody else, I at least give them a look-see. After reading your blog for a few weeks, and reading a few entries from before I was directed your way, I knew that trusting M-A had been wise.

No problems if you don't wish to friend me back, although I'd love to be in on the music posts.
10th-Nov-2006 05:17 pm (UTC)
M-A is awesome, I love him like a mad-as-a-hatter big brother. He's one of the smartest people I know and is blisteringly funny and caustic, two things I love.

You're added back, BTW.
10th-Nov-2006 02:54 pm (UTC) - why I read
I'm here for the politics, the poignancy, the humor, and the important issues that touch our lives, I'm here for the hilarity of it, the seriousness of it; i'm here for the music and the chats that follow; I'm here for the changing of the names of movies by putting the word "penis" in the title; I'm here for the Jeff Buckley love fest we sometimes engage in.
10th-Nov-2006 05:18 pm (UTC) - Re: why I read
You just like my doggy style, admit it. ;-)
10th-Nov-2006 02:58 pm (UTC)
Hi,

I friended you awhile ago, mostly for your weekend updates and political links, although I've really enjoyed reading your personal musings and the odd musical post - I'd never heard of Sugarland before reading your blog, for instance.

Thanks for the update above - if I ever do find anything for you, that's how I'll send it over.
10th-Nov-2006 05:20 pm (UTC)
WEEEEE SUGARLAND!!

I appreciate it, send it on!!
10th-Nov-2006 03:00 pm (UTC)
i'm also here for the folks on your list and the exchange of opinions and ideas. I like that not everyone agrees on everything all the time, and has a difference of opinion.
10th-Nov-2006 05:21 pm (UTC)
Ugh - if we all agreed on everything, I'd go stark raving mad.
10th-Nov-2006 03:01 pm (UTC) - Thanks
Howdy. I'm Chris. I live up in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canuckland. I've enjoyed reading your journal for a couple of reasons.
I think you have an excellent taste in music. When I saw you were looking for Dead Can Dance, I was trying to figure out how to burn my CDs and send you copies. Unfortunately CD burner is acting up.
The main reason is that I like reading all the information you put on politics in the States and your views on them. I've learned more by reading your journal for the last little while than I think I have in the last 10 years. I have even referred to your journal when I've been talking with friends here about 9/11 and other American political issues.
You journal is refreshing and a great read! :D
Thanks for posting.
10th-Nov-2006 05:23 pm (UTC) - Re: Thanks
Dead Can Dance is the next music post, including Lisa Gerrard & Brendan Perry's solo stuff. Hopefully I can have it all uploaded by tomorrow, we'll have to see. ;-)
10th-Nov-2006 03:15 pm (UTC)
Hi Jude!

My name is Sarah, and i'm an 18 year old australia girl. I first came to your blog when my friend Kashiichan reposted one of your blogs about equal rights for gays.

Although that was the original reason i came to your journal, i now love it for many more reasons. I can not pretend to understand all the political goings on of your country as i am far abroad, although i enjoy many of the you tube videos you repost when i can some how relate them to the diluted perception through our own media that my country provides as the only reference for your government .

What i love so much about your journal, is the deep, personal and thought provoking posts that are so empowering to read. You have this amazing ability to triumph out of even the greatest grief, providing invaluable insight to others who have yet to be in your position, and a poignant point of reflection for those who have.

I admire you greatly.

Please don't ever stop sharing your point of view with the world, no matter how many people you piss of in the interim.
10th-Nov-2006 05:24 pm (UTC)
Count on me posting similarly to what I have in the past, that ain't changing!
10th-Nov-2006 03:30 pm (UTC)
Hey...
I friended you oh, almost a year ago. Mostly for your political stuff; You seem to find the best links before me, so I look forward to your posts when They happen. :)

have a good weekend..
Shelley
10th-Nov-2006 05:27 pm (UTC)
I am well connected as far as that sort of thing goes, I get news/info as it breaks when I'm online.

You have a great weekend as well - I definitely plan on doing my best!
10th-Nov-2006 03:40 pm (UTC)
Hello!

I friended you a few weeks back, but I don't remember how I found you. I like to read your blog b/c of all the political content. I really appreciate the news on and links to information that isn't always easy to find in the mainstream media.

If you can friend me back, that'd be great, but I'm not going to be whiny about it. I mainly just wanted to let you know why I read your blog and that I appreciate the stuff you post.
10th-Nov-2006 05:28 pm (UTC)
Added!
10th-Nov-2006 03:55 pm (UTC)
I've been reading here since the summer sometime...new_buddhist pointed me in your direction and I'm glad she did. I find your writing pithy, to the point and most of all NOT POLITICALLY CORRECT. I can't tell you how refreshing that is.

Also, I love Rat Bastard Friday!

(That icon you have where the woman is kicking that guy in the nuts? Eeek!)
10th-Nov-2006 05:31 pm (UTC)
I'M PITHY!! WEEEEEEEEE!!! Political correctness is my personal kryptonite, it really is.

Rat Bastard Friday is an extension of the counseling work I do, only in a safe and anonymously available way. People are always surprised at themselves when they get these things off their chests, it enables us to feel lighter and less cluttered mentally & emotionally. We're all emotionally constipated enough I think.

I fucking LOVE that icon, I pretend he's Bill O'Reilly.
10th-Nov-2006 04:39 pm (UTC) - limiting static
Hello, I understand your desire to limit the amount of info you have to deal with, and apreciate that. At the same time I added you to my friend list last spring I believe. I ran into your blog and found it in turns incredibly entertaining, heartbreaking, beautiful, and funny as hell. We have some similarities in musical taste and I apreciate that as well.

As for friending me back... THat's kind of up to you, Do you need to read the life occurances, political/sociological rants, memes, and other ramblings of a 30 something MtF transsexual in the middle of her transition? Eh, that's up to you, I'm just glad you're putting stuff up and I have access to a chunk of it.

Later skater,
Mae (aka Maya, but shhhhhhh don't tell anyone that name. ;-) )
10th-Nov-2006 05:34 pm (UTC) - Re: limiting static
I have no issues whatsoever with the things you suggest, I've even written on transgender issues as well - take a peek and see if it resonates with you at all.

Added back, BTW.
10th-Nov-2006 04:47 pm (UTC)
We've set up the room in the basement for you. You know, the one with chains, hooks in the ceiling, and the smell of grease.
10th-Nov-2006 05:35 pm (UTC)
Just you wait...
10th-Nov-2006 05:13 pm (UTC)
I added you to my list because my partner Alex ("darke") kept linking stuff for me to read and/or watch from your journal. Whether you choose to friend me back or not is up to you. My LJ used to contain a lot of written porn-type stuff, but these days it is mostly about how grad school is driving me slowly insane. In other words, I went from masturbatory material to mental masturbation.
10th-Nov-2006 05:36 pm (UTC)
Alex is wonderful, he's got good taste as well - both of you do, in fact!

10th-Nov-2006 05:16 pm (UTC)
I added you because I was hoping to see your balls
10th-Nov-2006 05:37 pm (UTC)
They're nothing to look at, really. Whenever I'm cold or excited they climb way up in the treehouse.
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