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BACK DOOR BOY IN A FRONT DOOR WORLD
OUTSIDE OF SOCIETY - THAT'S WHERE I WANT TO BE
Because xtex started it, that's why. 
17th-Feb-2005 08:23 pm
Ask me a question. Or two. Or three. Ask me anything you want to know about me that I haven't already revealed. I might not answer, but it is highly likely that I will. Go ahead. Now's your chance. I dare you.

Also, added all of my Foamy icons to the Icon Repository. Go plunder.
Comments 
18th-Feb-2005 02:15 am (UTC)
What was it that shocked you so much inregards to my comment about your pic from 19 years of age?
18th-Feb-2005 02:21 am (UTC)
The fact that given what I knew about you and your family I assumed you were on the straight and narrow - other than that, nothing really.
18th-Feb-2005 02:30 am (UTC)
LOL. That was Michael's thoughts too. But, alas, I am not straight. As a friend put it "honey, a noodle is straight until it gets wet". He was right.
18th-Feb-2005 02:32 am (UTC)
""honey, a noodle is straight until it gets wet""

I ♥ you for that!
18th-Feb-2005 02:35 am (UTC)
Love me long time?
18th-Feb-2005 12:41 pm (UTC)
You know it!
18th-Feb-2005 12:19 pm (UTC)
Am I supposed to be straight too???
18th-Feb-2005 12:40 pm (UTC)
No. The thing is, when one is married to the opposite sex (by all outward appearances, anyway), there is an assumption going on. The person you're supposed to be is the person you know you ARE - period. You have a responsibility to that person to see them live through to be the "authentic self". Let's face it - if you're not telling yourself the truth, then you're lying to every person you come into association with. That's no way to live. Let them decide for themselves how they feel about you, and remember that at the end of a day the people that don't accept you aren't rejecting you - they were never worthy of you to begin with. Then give yourself credit for being so forthright and honest, because that takes more guts than most ever have.
18th-Feb-2005 12:45 pm (UTC)
I married my spouse because of the love, the wish to spend my life with them, and of course for our daughters protection. On the other hand I have never hidden the fact that I am bi and have had girlfriends over the years. I have always felt that while others may move in and out of my/our life I want to keep my darling in my life forever
18th-Feb-2005 01:53 pm (UTC)
Well, that's love for you! Relationships are all about give and take, making sacrifices for your partner, and honoring your partner for making them for you.

I define love as wanting better for others than they want for themselves. It's the best definition I've been able to come up with.
21st-Feb-2005 06:52 am (UTC)
The person you're supposed to be is the person you know you ARE - period. You have a responsibility to that person to see them live through to be the "authentic self". Let's face it - if you're not telling yourself the truth, then you're lying to every person you come into association with. That's no way to live. Let them decide for themselves how they feel about you, and remember that at the end of a day the people that don't accept you aren't rejecting you - they were never worthy of you to begin with.

May I please have permission to quote this in my journals?
21st-Feb-2005 12:18 pm (UTC)
Absolutely.
21st-Feb-2005 01:56 pm (UTC)
Consider yourself immortalized on Aura's LJ and soon her website.
18th-Feb-2005 04:34 am (UTC)
Are you afraid of dying?

Do you think of yourself as a phony at times?

Who the fuck do you think you are?

I only ask you what I ask myself.
18th-Feb-2005 05:15 am (UTC)
No, I've died once before for two minutes and change. I already know what that's like, so no - I'm not afraid of dying.

Not anymore, but I did many years ago. I have my mother to thank for changing that when she encouraged me to come out.

I think I'm scratchless on the outside, but if you turned me inside out I'm in pieces.
18th-Feb-2005 05:18 am (UTC)
One more, one more!!!

What was dying like?

I like the last answer tremendously.
18th-Feb-2005 12:47 pm (UTC)
Extremely painful and scary that time, moreso because I had no idea what was happening to me.

I have a congenital birth defect in my lungs that causes them to spontaneously collapse. The first time it happened, I thought I was having a heart attack. I was all alone and couldn't breathe, and I felt like I was drowning - which used to be a fear of mine, even though I am a good swimmer. I was in full cardiac and pulmonary arrest three different times that day, once in my kitchen on the floor when the EMS arrived, once on a stretcher in my front yard on the way to the ambulance, and once in the ER. I don't recall anything after phoning my sister for help, and then feeling like I was about to loose consciousness and telling her I was dying and that I loved her. When I remember waking up the next day in the hosiptal, I had tubes running into my chest and nose and was being given a shitload of painkillers.
18th-Feb-2005 02:59 pm (UTC)
whoa! i didn't know this! as someone who's had REALLY bad asthma attacks, i can totally relate though. the not breathing thing is terrifying.

i'm glad you are alive. :)
18th-Feb-2005 05:01 pm (UTC)
That ceratinly puts it in a unique perspective.
I commend you on not fearing death and on not fearing life.
18th-Feb-2005 06:41 am (UTC)
Are there ways to tell if someone's in the closet? What's the best way to encourage getting out of the closet if someone is?
18th-Feb-2005 01:58 pm (UTC)
There are millions of reasons to suspect, but the important thing to remember is that people need to come out on their own terms. All you can really do for a closeted loved one is to remind them now and then that you believe in being honest and forthright, and that nothing is worth living a lie. My mother is the one who encouraged me to come out, she made up some story about a woman she knows that had a child come out to her and the woman reacted badly. She told her how it was her responsibility as a mother to love and respect her child, and that no matter what she should be supportive and protective and make them always feel like they could tell her anything. That opened me up.
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